Psychological attitudes accompany us everywhere. Movies and TV shows have a certain message. Specialists in various fields also work with each client through these very attidudes. Psychological attitudes are called a program of behaviour that is embedded in a person’s subconscious. A person does not realise this fact or traces the tendency after committing acts. The attitudes are formed depending on what we see most often. At the same time, not only self-esteem is involved, but also the assessment of people around them.
There is no such person who does not have a pattern of behavior in his subconscious.
Psychologists conditionally divide psychological attitudes into four types:
I’m good and you’re good. This is the most effective attitude, thanks to which a person understands that most often the reason for some unseemly actions of others is thoughtlessness, and not a planned desire to mess up. If a person has such an attitude, then he adequately evaluates himself and expects the same from others. They do not waste time looking for flaws in themselves or others, but cooperate constructively.
I’m good and you’re bad. This attitude is typical for those who can assert themselves only at the expense of others. These people blame others for their own problems, trying to vent their irritation because their plans do not work out. A person with such an attitude is able to rise in his own eyes only after he humiliates other people.
I’m bad, and you’re good. Most often, this attitude can be found in those people who have low self-esteem or suffer from an inferiority complex. They tend to distance themselves from people, do not come into close contact, or, conversely, choose a strong personality and “stick” to it. People with this attitude are characterized by chronic depression.
I’m bad and you’re bad. The most difficult attitude. Because of such thoughts, a person ceases to enjoy life, to be interested in people, hopelessness and longing become his constant companions. Such people are distinguished by mild irritability, unpredictability and a tendency to severe depression. They do not see a way out of the situation, and therefore cannot change their worldview.
Usually a person has a mixture of all attitudes in his head, but there is one that occupies a dominant position.
Where do our attitudes come from?
Attitudes in the subconscious are formed from several sources.
Your own negative experience, for example, once you failed in some significant life situation. And in the future, when faced with something like this, you feel fear that the failure will happen again. As a result, you begin to avoid those situations that can lead to a repeat of the scenario: for example, you give up trying to achieve something, avoid serious relationships, etc.
Parental attitudes
Children perceive an emotionally charged message from their parents, of course, accept it as true. And even in adulthood, such attitudes can completely determine a person’s decisions and actions. For example, if a child constantly hears from his parents that money is evil and it is impossible to earn it honestly, it will be quite difficult for him to build a “healthy relationship” with money in later life. And the mother’s statement that men cannot be relied on and should rely only on themselves can seriously complicate her daughter’s personal life.
The folk wisdom of War, revolution, famine, repression – all this took shape in a certain way in the worldview of people. This was how attitudes were formed that ensured people’s survival. For example, demonstrating wealth was life-threatening. Today, such attitudes have lost their relevance, but they continue to affect the lives of many, complicating it. And unconsciously, we can pass these attitudes down the chain to our children. This also includes folk wisdom. For example, the proverb “Who works, eats” hammered into your head can cause you to want to eat all the time while working.
Settings: benefit and/or harm?
The beliefs that live in the head do not always unambiguously help or harm. For example, the sattitude “I can handle everything on my own” may prohibit requests for help when a person actually needs it. But in critical situations, when a lot really depends on the person himself, it will help to cope with a difficult task. Having identified a certain mental attitude (for example, “I can’t afford to rest”), you can figure out how much it helps or harms your life at the moment by answering the following questions in writing:
Is this attitude relevant at the moment?
Does it benefit me or harm me
Where did it come from
What do I get if I get rid of it?
It often turns out that just discovering a psychological attitude is not enough to get rid of it. Its roots may be deep in the subconscious and serious work with a psychotherapist will be needed to work on it. Also, one attitude can generate another and it can be quite difficult to find its final source. Also, the brain does not like changes, and any attempts to instill something new in the brain are perceived by it as a danger, because there is no experience in this area.
What should I do? How can we gently and safely let the brain know that I no longer need the old setup and it’s time for a change?
The method of Neurographica is ideally suited for this purpose. It is known that our subconscious mind is only 95 percent of our mind, only 5 percent of our actions we are aware of. This means that the reasons for our behavior or our actions lie far beyond our awareness. How do I get access to it? How not to harm and at the same time lay down a new healthy program of thinking?
Using the method of Neurographica, we activate the subconscious layers of our mind on a given topic, and begin to draw a picture that looks like a neural network. By rounding off sharp corners and intersections, we signal to the brain that the conflict on this topic has been resolved, that a new solution has been found and that there is no longer a need to hold on to the old settings to ensure safety.
Outwardly, the whole process may look like an exciting drawing of abstract paintings, but in fact, under the guidance of an experienced neurologist, a process of deep transformation and improvement of the brain is taking place, and the results will not take long to wait for the next few days.