Today I studied the coaching algorithm of Neurographica called Ikigai and got an unexpected result.
The purpose of this algorithm is to find your own unique recipe for happiness, to find the optimal balance between passion, purpose and vocation. That is, in simple words, to find a business in life that you like yourself, that people and the world need and are willing to pay for.
In the course of my work, I realized that I was going in the right direction, I like helping people as a psychologist + neurologist, that this is a quick and effective way to help people achieve their success. But I realized that I was doing it wrong towards myself.
The fact is that I chose an achievement model for building a practice, which is based on the fact that the indicator of the result is the amount of money earned.
And how else can I think if they shout from every corner – buy a big house, an expensive car, travel half the world.
And I was like a horse rushing forward, spinning social networks, and every time I got upset when the video got few views or a potential client postponed a session.
But today, while working with Ikigai, I realized that I was tired of wearing a man’s jacket. Men’s shoes are too tight for me. I’m tired of carrying a greatcoat.
I acted out of fear.
Our mothers, grandmothers, they have been afraid for generations to relax and let go of control, because the time was hard, and even now it is not easier in the CIS countries.
When a woman takes control, a weak, infantile man turns out to be next to her, who does not want to take responsibility and is used to having his mother or wife decide everything for him.
But how do you stop being afraid?
It’s a long way and everyone has their own way.
I just stopped being a good girl at some point. I showed my fangs and claws and began to yell obscenities when people acted badly towards me. I risked that everyone would turn away from me and not accept me. But the result was the opposite. They began to consider and respect my opinion.
I realized that my fears were far-fetched.
Then I was able to relax and hear myself. What I want, not what society wants from me.
And I just want to help people. To help them come to the state that I found in myself. Moreover, I’m already doing quite well.